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I’m adding some separate pages that will go into different topics in depth
Magical properties of Essential oils
Magical properties of healing crystals
Reiki and energy work
Wheel of the Year
I also am closing all niche sites down except Diymommy18.com. I’m also redoing that site.
If you have any topics of interest you would like to see covered either in a blog or a page separate from the blog, please don’t hesitate to let me know.
This is going to be one of the most important and personal choice you make when practicing. You’ll need to decide what type of alter, how you store everything and how to display it if you want to display. You may choose to hide it in a room in your home that visitors don’t visit or you may keep it out in the open. I personally store everything in an old antique table a family friend gave me. I can hide it, keep my kids from accessing it and I know where everything is.
You will want to find storage– it could be a plastic tub or it could be an old wood antique box, that doesn’t matter outside of aesthetics.
You will also need to decide what types of tools you’ll want to use. Candle magick is one of the simplest and more common. All you need is a supply of candles of different shapes, types and colors. Common colors
- Purple is used for wisdom
- Blue- healing, fighting sadness/depression or bringing peace
- Green is used in healing, health, money and success spells.
- Pink- love, relationships in general (friendships), it’s used to invoke feminine energies
- Red- passion, love, vitality, fertility and can be used to banish negativity
- White- protection, cleansing, divining and communicating with the deceased
- Black- lifting curses, banishing negative entities or energy, purification and some health (banishing a cold or symptoms of chronic illness)
After determining the types of spells you’ll practice (you may want to stock up for any and all types), you will need to determine the sizes. There isn’t any significance with sizes and shapes, so that would be a personal preference, although sometimes you find specially molded candles in shapes of gods, goddesses or symbols. Even then, all you would really need are tapered, pillar, jar, votive or tea lights.
The last thing to consider- do you want primarily unscented or scented candles? I would suggest a mixture of both, but with earthy scents. Some scents promote psychic energies, relaxation and sage is good for cleansing. Burning a sage scented candle can work just as well as smudging, if you don’t have a smudge stick available.
Dragons blood is good to work with in any form. You can use scented candles, incense or dragon’s blood ink. Dragon’s blood incense smells amazing and is added to increase the energy you put into your spell work. It makes the energies more intense.
Incense is another item on your list. It’s normally a good idea to stock up on different earthy scents to help enhance your spells. Different scents help with different emotions or energies- dragon’s blood is considered to help
Some common scents that are used to enhance spells
- Dragon’s blood
- Sandal wood
- Other earthy scents work well as well
An alter cloth is next on the list. You can make one or buy one. It’s typically used as decoration and to protect the surface of the alter. You could also get one that serves both to protect the alter and provide divination
The divination tools are next. Decide what form(s) of divination you’re wanting to practice and make sure to get the tools you will need for those. If you’re wanting to read tarot, get at least one set of tarot cards. Most people say the first deck needs to be gifted and not bought, but to be honest, not everyone is going to have a friend or family member who will give them their first deck.
If you’re wanting to learn the iChing, they do sell iChing coins but all you really need are five coins of one type and one different. (I use 5 pennies and 1 dime).
If you’re wanting to learn runes, one or two good sets of runes
For dowsing, you need a pendulum (you can make one fairly easy but there are plenty to choose from) and you need a mat (either make or buy- it can be paper but they also make cloth) with words like “yes,” “no,” “maybe” etc.
With any method, it’s best to buy at least one guide book to start you out. Some people prefer ebooks but I like normal, paperback books myself. It makes it easier to do readings and the batteries never die. Of course, when you’re studying Tarot, it comes with a book and you will find out quickly that the meanings in the book mean nothing, but it gives a basic understanding while you’re learning.
If you decide you’re not interested in practicing divination, that’s ok. It’s not required but it is useful to know at least one method.
There may be another post like this later, if I find I missed anything. My alter box is mainly set up for candle magick and divination and I covered those. I don’t do herbal or crystal magick too much, I do have a collection of dried herbs, crystals for specific energies and salt (sea and black). I’m in the process of grinding coal to make black sand.
As much as you can gather, dry out and make yourself- the better. The more work you manually put in, the more the alter’s energies will be alligned with yours but if you buy, you can use the 3 day “rule”
For 3 days, carry the tools with you in your pocket. Three nights, sleep with them under your pillow and it should sync your energies up to the tools.
A few miscellaneous items you may also want to add:
1. Athame- double sided knife used in rituals to direct energies
2. wand- once again, used to direct energies and very easy to make (I found a sturdy stick, stripped it down and have been using it for years)
When you go to buy your supplies, it’s best to find the supplies that are calling you. Find the ones that keep you coming back around- even if it’s not the best looking, those are the tools most aligned with you and we hardly choose our tools. Most of the time our tools choose us.
If I missed any tools you have found you need, feel free to comment. We all practice different so what I use may not be what everyone else uses and vice versa.
As long as I can remember, I walked off the normal path. I was always seen as different, strange, and could never fit in when I was a child. I tried wearing the same clothes, listening to the same music, talking with the same slang (slang always made my head hurt) and no matter what I tried, I never could succeed at fitting in.
I have the same issue now that my oldest is in school. I have tried to come up with things to say to start conversations with parents who seem a good ten years older than I am. I have tried to wrack my astrology and tarot obsessed brain to figure out how to start an appropriate, not new-age conversation and my brain fails. I feel like if I mention Bethcessories, I’ll come off as being pushy like a sales rep at a kiosk at the mall. If I mention writing, I’ll be seen as trying to self promote myself too much and if I talk about my tarot and astrology business, I’ll be seen, once again as too much self promotion. It feels like a very fine line.
There also seems to be a bit of a difference between moms who work from home, stay at home or work out of the home so besides the age difference, it feels like I don’t fully fit in with either of the main groups. It may all be in my head, but I’ve attended one or two PTO meetings and only spoke with a few people in the entire time I was there- one was my daughter’s teacher. My daughter was in therapy with one class mate (different therapists but we went at the same time) and I would try to get to know their mom, then I heard her talking to one of the therapists about a church group and it hit me- church groups seem to be how different parents get to know each other. That night, I went on facebook and found one lone Pagan parenting group and another group for all pagans in my state, so I know we exist.
I have another that focuses on gluten/dairy free recipes and normal kid crafts that can be found here. This site is going to be 100% focused on pagan parenting, history, divination and all things New Age. I will post kid friendly ritual and spell ideas you can get kids involved in and around each holiday, I’ll post ways for your child to celebrate.
I’ll be doing a local in person course later when the Virus pandemic is under control, but until then I’ll be running it online.
It’s going to be close to 12 lessons, lesson 1 won’t be video, it’ll just be the introduction and what to expect.
It’ll be going up around this evening or tomorrow.
I’m aiming each to be around 20-40 minutes with enough information I’m going to have you interpreting your dreams and for your friends, coworkers and family.
I’ve been doing this on Etsy for 3 years, have 1 of a 3 book series published and have been studying and keeping record of my own dreams (and interpreting for friends and family) for over 20 years now.
I was going to charge 20 per lesson but for the introductory price of 50 for the full class, you can sign up here.
I have decided to create advertising profiles for business blogs on this site
I’m charging one flat fee for one month and that will get you
1 feature interview on this site, shared across Twitter, Facebook (several groups, pages, my personal profile) and Instagram
2 blog posts featuring products or services you’re offering
All three will link back to your site
1 month of regular posts on all three social networks and will share your posts as well.
Message me at email@example.com if you’re interested, since the holiday season is coming up, I know how important advertising is this time of the year.
One day only, my entire Etsy store is 30% off with no minimum and no exceptions
I think the anxiety buildup of starting was ten times worse than actually starting.
Besides either accidentally using too much olive oil in 2 dishes last night or using bad garlic in one, it’s been smooth (I threw up pretty much everything I ate for lunch and dinner and thanks to work, had to almost combine lunch and dinner because I decided to go to bed early)
I’m barely even craving snacks or junk now and I was reading these are the worst days. I didn’t go full- Whole30 because if I attempted to quit smoking on top of the restrictive diet, I’d be setting myself up to fail. I’m even craving those less and smoking under a half pack a day.
Every time I start to feel annoyed with myself for taking on this “no desert” “diet,” I just have to remind myself it’s only a month and the benefits should be much better than giving up junk food.
Yesterday, I decided to keep the computer turned off and put my phone away after I got off work. I also cut my kids’ electronic time 2 hours before bed and they both went to bed on time and slept soundly- but we overslept and the alarm didn’t wake us up. (we had a HORRIBLE night the night before and none of us got much sleep)
I’m going to do that again tonight and see if it’s a repeat, I’ve been reading the book “Sleep Smarter” by Shawn Stevenson and there are so many things he suggests I’m planning on trying.
I would recommend that book to anyone who wakes up every morning exhausted and is always feeling tired. He goes into the science behind the suggestions and explains things in an easy to understand way.
I also started working out again, not too big of a difference since I would start one regime then move on to another. This time it’s a mix with HIIT and Yoga. Since I’m no longer in my 20s, I know I need to start taking things more seriously. I have logged off Facebook, not sure if this time it will be a few weeks or a few months. I kept Messenger so I could talk to people but other than that, I’m off it for a while.
Other social networks are linked to my business and I spend less time on those, so they are a nonissue, but I have been finding that Facebook is my kryptonite with getting anything at all done.
I’m starting another four in areas of interest right now.
I did a “best of WV” travel post for another site and doing the research got me interested in doing a kind of travel site for West Virginia. There are so many places here in WV that are great places to tour and visit, lots of great locally owned businesses and small, local artists/artisans and authors and I want to shine the light on those places and people.
After working on the book review/spotlight for Booklure Promotions, I decided to start up a Fantasy site. This one will have exercpts from a few fantasy books/stories I’m working on as well as reviews of fantasy books, movies and series I have really liked.
I also started a site as a resource for both new and seasoned parents- different products, books and other things that I (and others) have found useful as well as tips, research and studies I find that have to do with parenting (none of the celebrity gossip crap unless a celebrity parent comes out with a baby product or baby clothing line)
I have five hobbies I can think of off the top of my head.
I sew, do crafts with my kids, make candles, read, write and garden.(candles and crafts are pretty much one in the same)
I have a few things I’d love to pick up- kayaking and working out.
I belong to several decluttering groups on Facebook and use those groups for guidance as well as inspiration.
I watched Marie Kondo’s show on Netflix and grabbed her book on audible and listened to it. Before watching or reading (well, listening) I started to try to tackle my home.
Over the course of the years since I grew up, I have ended up with such a cluttered mess of a house. We have been pre-approved for a home loan so we just have to find the house and when we move, I do not want to take the clutter from one house to another.
Some of the clutter belongs to my kids (my husband just has tools he needs and a closet with stuff like fishing poles, camping supplies and hunting stuff- he’s not bad at all- I have a whole room that I can barely breathe in). Most of the clutter is mine.
For the past several years, the minimalist approach has really appealed but how can I part with my useless stuff that I don’t use? I’m working on getting rid of all the clothes I don’t wear, what sits in my drawers and is never picked. The uncomfortable pajamas (I have very specific types of fabric I am able to wear, anything else will make me lie awake for hours agitated until I change)
I already have pared down pretty much everything in my kitchen and clothing but when I look around my house, all six rooms and both walk in closets (storage closets that are the size of small rooms) are stuffed. I’m currently playing the game of “do I want to load you in a box and move you to another home?” game with all my stuff but it still feels like there is so much left.
Last night I finally tossed my favorite pair of jeans (holes that couldn’t be patched worn from me wearing them so much) and a favorite pair of pajama bottoms for a similar reason.
I also got most of my main clothing down to what will fit in one large tote. We threw away a storage container that was damaged and some other damaged items from the bathroom, so now I’m trying to pare down bathroom items because we don’t have enough space.
I’m constantly working to try to get as clutter free as I can, I’m also working on trying to use less plastic. I have to drink bottled water- I can’t stomach any water that was out of the tap- including filtered, I just can’t take the chemical after taste. Once I use up the very last bag of disposable razors I bought, I’m going to stop buying disposable and I’m looking around at either making or buying produce bags. I use shopping bags most of the time I grocery shop- with 2 kids, it’s easier to take 2 or 3 bags from the car to the house and I’m looking for reusable stainless steel straws, although I’m trying to quit drinking with straws altogether- they can cause wrinkles around the mouth.
Over the years, I’ve worked at trying to find time to make small changes to my lifestyle.
I ran across a minimalist challenge on another site and I would try to follow it for a month, but I’ve done half the things listed. I have studied minimalism up and down but letting go of the anxiety over things I don’t use but am afraid of getting rid of is the major challenge. I’m torn, part wants to hang on to everything and part wants to blindly throw everything out.