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Stop Blaming Millennials for your Failure to Evolve

Are millennials really to blame for so many failing businesses or industries? It seems every month there are new articles and lists about all the “beloved” industries that are failing and the millennial generation is to blame. Are we to blame, or are these industries and businesses just failing to keep up with changing times?

Retail, for one, is changing rapidly. The rise of Amazon from a book selling site to the powerhouse it is now is proof. Online retail is picking up popularity so stores like Walmart and Kroger are pushing to get in on it. Same with convenience, more people are now wanting to get their grocery shopping done faster so online site to store pickups are being developed. Walmart offers purchase online, a group of shoppers pick everything up and they deliver it to your car when you check in at an onsite kiosk. Kroger is offering similar and so are other retailers. Amazon has been testing out cashier less stores in some states.

Stores like KMart are failing and closing down all around. Toys R Us closed. Walmart and Target are both still standing firm. Walmart is constantly changing. They now have (too many) apps to work around various offers. They offer ship to store for free- you can order anything they sell online and have it shipped in less than a week to a store close to you for free. They also let you do your grocery shopping online and pick it up at the store.

Some stores are testing delivery to peoples’ homes.

Outside of Retail, taxi cab services are taking a hit thanks to giants like Uber and other driver services. Ubers tend to pick up faster. I know personally, I waited 4 hours for a cab once and gave up. They are failing to stack up to the standards of the customers, so now other services are starting to beat them.

We are also blamed for run of the mill, nothing special restaurants (Applebees being a prime example). I personally don’t know many people who are huge Applebee’s fans. Last time I went was using a gift card and the food is basically generic- there is nothing memorable about going (although I did have good service with my food limitations and didn’t get sick). Other restaurants similar are also feeling hits- The bar and grill is my personal favorite type of restaurant, but it seems to be failing just as much. People in my age range are wanting faster service- but healthier services and how the business owners give back is just as important.

Not all businesses are able to keep up with the changing times, but quit blaming a whole generation for not being interested.

Napkins are a waste of money when paper towels are more absorbent, golf is boring, country clubs are boring to those of us not interested in drinking and restaurants like Applebees don’t stand out.

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New Fall Pillowcase

This 100% cotton pillow case will be available tomorrow on Etsy for 10 and free shipping.

It’s perfect for fall.

Fits any of my regular medium sized decorative pillows and is also available as a set of 2 for 18.

Https://www.etsy.com/shop/bethcessoriesdesign

 

https://www.etsy.com/listing/634924216/fall-leaves-cotton-pillowcase

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About 1P36 Deletion- Why Do I Even Have To Know?

              Why Do I Even Know What 1P36 Deletion Syndrome Is?

              I never thought we would be traveling down this path. I had severe Pre-Eclampsia at 28 weeks and had my baby weighing only 1lb 11.5ozs and 13 inches long. She was on a feeding tube, oxygen and heart monitor. She stayed in the NICU almost 9 months. She had Retinopathy of Prematurity (where her retinas were detaching from her eyeball) and required laser eye surgery. She also had five holes in her heart- PDA, ASD and three muscular VSDs. We had to have two of the holes (PDA and ASD) closed, luckily they were able to close them through a catherization instead of open heart. She also had feeding troubles after being on oxygen for so long, so the last of her surgeries was getting a g-tube placed in her stomach.

              She came home at eight and a half months old still on a nasal cannula and heart monitor that beeped every time she kicked her feet. She also still had the development of a newborn since she had been lying in a crib most of her life. For the first few months of having her home, we had a home nurse come to the house daily to help us out. I was testing the day time nurses to see if I could seek employment again whhile they took care of her during the day. The first outing we had as a family resulted in her getting a cold. A simple cold shouldn’t be that bad, right? It wasn’t RSV or anything more than a simple cold- and it landed her back in the PICU and on life support so I knew we couldn’t place her in day care, the nursing fell through and I had to cancel it so I decided to stay home with her instead.

              We were nervous for the first few months of taking her out of her crib too long, so we would keep her in the crib except during play time and feedings, baths and spending some time with her. I regret that to this day, but if her cannula came out of her nose for any length of time, she’d start turning blue. We finally figured out how to place her main oxygen tank so it could stretch all through the house and we were able to take her downstairs to be with us during the day, luckily that didn’t last long and around 15 months, she finally had strong enough lungs to get rid of the tube. By that time, she was finally starting to be able to lift her head and crawl during belly time. By three, she started walking without assistance but by that time, we had a misdiagnosis of Cerebral Palsy and she had started Pre-K. She had finished early intervention (birth to three in this state) and she loved Pre-School. Her first year, she didn’t talk and had to be carried. By the end of the year, she was walking holding the teacher’s hand and starting to say words. By four, she was walking on her own, by five she was walking and doing more talking. She started Kindergarten and entered a special class with an IEP. She had a tablet device to help her communicate. Now at seven, they’re putting her in second grade. She’s able to jump about an inch off the ground, walk up and down stairs, run slowly and speak in sentences (short sentences), her hole have fully closed up and she has a normal heart now. She still can’t write but she can read and is starting to be able to do basic math, she understands more than she’s able to communicate back to us.

So, what is 1P36 Deletion Syndrome?

              The first chromosome is the largest chromosome. It may be the most important to development. It is separated into two parts (1P and 1Q) 1P is the shorter arm and 1Q is the longer arm. The whole chromosome contains about 249 million DNA base pairs. 1P36 Deletion syndrome is when a part of DNA is deleted from the 1P arm at the 36 base. My daughter’s particular is 1P36.12-1P36.22. Different areas cause different symptoms but the syndrome has some common symptoms-

1. Low muscle tone (hypotonia)

2. Seizures

3. Growth and feeding issues

4. Developmental delays

5. Birth defects like cleft lip, pallet, heart defects or brain defects

6. Cardiomyopathy (enlarged heart)

7. Hearing loss

8. Vision problems

9. Thyroid problems (mainly hypo but this condition seems to put them at higher risk)

10. Behavior problems (self harm, throwing objects, hitting, melt downs, screaming etc)

              Those are the more common problems. There are some that are more rare- early puberty, undecended testes in boys at birth, scoliosis, neuroblastoma (extremely rare)

              Some of the other random common yet uncommon symptoms include shaking while excited and biting on their hands. My daughter has chew marks all over her hands, we try giving her chewies to use instead but she still has litte blisters. I thought it was anxiety for a long time, but learned it’s a symptom of the 1P36 Deletion Syndrome.

How common is 1P36 Deletion Syndrome and how does it happen?

It’s rare, but one of the more common genetic disorders. It affects 1 in 5-10,000. It’s not completely known how many since there are a lot of kids who go undiagnosed.

It can be passed down but it’s more common to be a random occurrence with no family history.

When it is genetic, the parents usually have what is called a balanced translocation. A balanced translocation is when part of the gene didn’t attach in the proper location and connected to a different gene. Since the gene is there, the carrier shows no symptoms and doesn’t have the syndrome- but they have a 50% chance of any offspring inheriting the deletion.

What’s the prognosis?

              Most children with 1P live into adulthood and with symptoms controlled, can live average lifespans. Some of the complications can take their lives early, but the prognosis isn’t bad. Our geneticist told us our daughter has a 50/50 chance of needing a care taker or living a normal life. There isn’t enough known yet as to the full severity.

              Our case isn’t as extreme as some of the cases I have run across in the forums and support groups I have joined, but it’s not the least extreme. She speaks in basic sentences and her speech seems to improve as her (normal developing) two year old sister’s does. She is fully potty trained, including at night but she has trouble tolerating loud noises and while her gross motor skills are improving, her fine motor still need to catch up. We lucked out and the majority of her problems seem to be physical,(not mental) she developed no brain bleeds or defects and doesn’t have seizures. She did have the heart defects, but they were easily fixable and she speaks more than a few words now. No two cases of any disorder will be the same. There are online support websites available, a yearly conference that is held in late July or early August. The conference for 2018 is from July 26-28 in Houston, Texas.

              The major website is http://www.1p36dsa.org. They have resources, information about the disorder, information for families a store and opportunities to get involved in spreading awareness or just making donations. They are a nonprofit dedicated to education and awareness.

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Last Night I Also Decided to Start a Blog Specifically About Dreams and Divination/Astrology/Numerology

dreamsanddivinations.wordpress.com

I also remembered an old Wix site I started years ago but kind of stopped and it didn’t get nearly the views I get on here, so I deleted it and am moving all the dream blogs to this page. I’ll be doing daily divinations, stuff about dreams and all that.

 

Health · Parenting

I started a page to specifically share recipes and kid craft ideas.

Since I have so many DIY ideas, crafts and converted recipes I decided to create a smaller site and Twitter account to share those on. I’m no longer posting recipes and such here and I’ll be doing updates towards Nano and during November on that blog.

It’s https://diymommy171078038.wordpress.com

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Only the end of September and I’m starting to plan for November 1st

This is my 6th year doing Nano and I’m planning on it being my second win. My first was my first year.

My first year was a breeze, my oldest was 1 1/2, I stayed at home and had nothing else taking time. Now I have 2 kids, a job, freelance work and an Etsy. I’ve been working on schedule issues to work on everything (mainly at night after the kids are in bed and I’m home from work) and I can easily take a notebook to work and work on that during my hour long lunch break.

I already know I’m working on parts 2-4 (or higher) of a short story series I started back in 2014 (accidentally- the story ended at 11 pages and I decided to make it into a total of 7 worlds in the fantasy series.)

Book 1 is fully finished, I’m just working on editing it. Next month I’ll be going through and finalizing what worlds he will be entering and mapping things out.

I’m also planning several different Christmas decoration designs for my Etsy and I’m in the full swing of the Halloween season.

 

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Halloween and Fall Decoration Ideas

With the Fall Equinox coming in 2 days, and around here we are getting ready to experience some cooler weather, the thoughts of fall and everything related are filling peoples’ heads. There are pumpkin spice everything put out (and being bought), pumpkins selling fast and ideas for all types of DIY decorations in magazines. (I’ll be posting some pig pumpkins once we finish decorating them today I got from Country Living Magazine later)

I am a decoration fanatic. I only have a tiny bit of yard to use, but I make sure it’s decked out year round.

41992169_336285123792278_3721611096381980672_oThis is currently the beginning of decorating my garden, I had no idea how big the Gecko blow up would be when I bought it and I’m currently searching for the perfect location. I’m planning a few DIY decorations but sadly, my pumpkins will have to stay inside. We bought a total of 7 small and 1 big but the paint we used washes off too easily with water (although, that was good for me yesterday)

42135621_336544230433034_2756593049470500864_o.jpgIt took me about 1-2 hours to clean it all up, but we still have a few patches of yellow paint my shampooer didn’t get on the carpet. I also got a nice, big hug while she was covered in it so I ended up with paint all over my pants.

 

One DIY my kids have LOVED over the years are hanging ghosts. I made a small family years ago and my seven year old grew so attached to hers (she named him “Boo,” that she slept with him for over a year. These ghosts are super simple and super cute. You can get kits here with all supplies and instructions and there’s even bulk options for groups.

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Another cute idea is to buy several pumpkins and paint them up like animals, I am in the middle of making those. I got the idea from Country Living Magazine

These pumpkins will be finished today, I did buy the wrong paint (the paint is coming off too easily and is water soluable. It was good for cleaning up the kitchen and my two year old BUT bad for outdoor decorations. We will have to find places inside for all 8 pumpkins. These are not finished yet but this is what we have so far. The three fully pink are going to be pigs (like the introduction picture in Country Living’s article^)

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Don’t forget to stock up on your favorite fall scents over the course of the entire holiday season. There are classic fall scents,  you can even find leaf scented candles and there are tons of other fun, fall and Halloween related scents, like these Pumpkin Spice melts pictured.

20180913_085232587203506696025851.jpgAnother idea along the DIY route is to go to the store and buy a wreath base with some flowers, leaves and ribbon (and anything else you want to use) You can even go out in nature and have your kids pick up sticks and acorns. (if you’re really crafty, make your own wreath base but I’m not that crafty lol)

This is the wreath my kids and I made. I’m still thinking about adding to it, but I’m not 100% if I will or what to add.

20180904_1520389069768312919863801.jpgDecorative pillows are always a fun way to add some fun into a living room or bedroom as well. My kids are pillow fanatics so we are always tripping over one or two

You can get these here, and here

 

20180913_0906071641335795828449305.jpg19250582_142716789815780_8861833127993851175_oThere are also party favors or small decorations

Take an egg carton, paint it black, add black pipe cleaners and paint on eyes- and you have a cute little spider infestation, ala Pinterest

Take small chap sticks or lip glosses, wrap them with white tissue paper or fabric and tie them off. Draw on eyes and a mouth and you have party favor ghosts for Halloween parties.

Take pencils, wrap small peices of burlap around the eraser, tied off and pull out like broom bristles and you have little witch’s brooms.

Those ideas also came from Country Living, same edition as the pumpkins.

 

Some other party favors for kid’s parties- sucker ghosts. Take suckers, wrap white tissue paper around and tie off with a rubber band and there are so many other ideas on sites like Pinterest.

I’ll be posting more of the crafts my girls and I are working on over the month and I’ll be posting recipes for Halloween treats and desserts- always gluten and dairy free.

I’ll be doing the same for Christmas.

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Meditation for Beginners

You have heard about mindfullness, meditation, even thought about trying Yoga. You have read a lot of self help books, tried downloading meditation apps and tried everything you could but you can’t stay with it and nothing seemed to help- the voice on the app was too distracting or the music was too loud, the app was full of ads and you couldn’t get it to load properly.

All of those are issues I had when I first started. So I started looking for blogs and sites to help, bought several magazines and in the end, stopped reading and started trying.

There was one daily Yoga app that helped, but I don’t like paying for apps unless they are truly gold- the beta only covered a few weeks and after those weeks, I lost touch. I tried buying a Yoga DVD, I have a yoga ball, bricks and a mat- the mat collects dust, we had to throw the bricks away and the ball was a play toy until we finally admitted it was too big for our house. Now it’s in storage.

You do not need tons of stuff- a mat could come in handy if you have hard floors. Mine  are carpeted, so I need nothing.

All you need to start a daily routine- yourself and the will to do it. Determine if you’re wanting to learn mindful meditation, Yoga or normal meditation. The next step is to just start- find a chart on Pinterest with beginner Yoga moves and start doing it.

Find some time in your day and just sit down, close your eyes and clear your mind. Clearing your mind isn’t as easy as it seems at first, when I can’t clear my mind for any reason, I start counting. It works well for getting me to sleep. If you can’t find a good time of your day, put yourself to bed, lie there and count. Start at one, slow yourself down and each time you inhale, count. Focusing on your breath is the first step and once you start feeling your lungs inflate, deflate, chest rise and fall and the air going in and out of your nose/lips it will clear your mind.

I already wrote a tried/tested guide to making meditation part of your everyday routine when you’re too busy to just sit down

All four of those methods are things I try to do on a regular basis because I’m not living a lazy, laid back life (although I’d LOVE to slow down a bit).

 

I’ll be writing more on the topics of Yoga and meditation, I’d like to know what types of advice would you give beginners?

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I’ve been trying to get more involved in my daughter’s school

But there is a big difference between our family (young, not rich but not poor, just not upper class) and the majority of the other parents (richer area- which is one huge factor in us wanting to keep her there and make sure her sister goes to that school). It also seems like our lifestyles are different- neither of us drink. At all. We went to a charity event and almost everyone there seemed to have drinks in their hands.

We are also an estimated 10 years younger than most of the other parents I have seen. I have actually been trying to research how to socialize with people of totally different lifestyles and all that and found very little but I’m at a point, I’m modeling being nonsocial to my kids- spending my “social” time talking to friends online instead of seeing people in person. My two year old wants a playmate and my older daughter is now starting to shy away from other kids (but she is also showing interest).

I’ve been trying to put myself in situations to talk to the other parents, so this year I volunteered as the homeroom parent.

So, I have my day job

My 2 side Etsy shops

My side freelancing

Making PTA meetings, school meetings with her team at school, doctors appointments and therapist appointments (she’s in speech, occupational and physical)

and now, making sure I’m able to help out with all the things the HP is supposed to help with- not too much, only a few things and I got one knocked out yesterday afternoon.

There are two coming up next month and after that, not really much until the next party so it’s not going to be time consuming. This is the year I need to sign her up for something- something to get her around other kids her age.

This is what happens when you take someone- give them a type A along with the ADHD attention span, make them a perfectionist- take away all idea of what they want to do career wise then plop them in the middle of motherhood and give them only a part time job and very little choice with what they went to school for.

You get someone like me- the career mindedness of a Type A but with very little direction and a short attention span (unless I’m writing or talking about something like tarot or astrology, or sewing)

Finding out what my outter limits are will be fun, but I’m very far from hitting it. My kids still get attention, I still get sleep (most nights) and nothing important gets neglected. I’d much rather have a full schedule and always be heading out than a laid back day filled with nothing-

I’m still looking for that magical formula for fitting in and figuring out how to socialize with people so much different from me. Just my clothing and tattoos make me stand out- add in religion and even age and I blank when I try to figure out how to start conversations. (and the fact my daughter is special needs makes it that much harder)

I was trying to get to know another mother in a similar situation but heard her talking about church playdates. It had me thinking about looking into local places around here for Pagans- found a few groups and learned we have a larger community than I thought- now it comes down to finding the time to make it to any of the gatherings. If it’s not trying to find stuff, it’s always feeling like I’m on a time crunch- even though most of the time I’m not.

 

This should be a fun year, though. I won’t be able to attend the first PTA meeting but I’m hoping I’ll be able to make all the others and I’m hoping I’ll be able to actually volunteer this year. I may also find a way to have a little “me” time without keeping myself up this late (I need to go to bed, but I’ve been off 3 days- so that means I’ve been with my girls nonstop) I’m living for this weekend (we’re taking our anniversary trip that we had to call off last month). For 3 days, it will be just me and my husband- no certain time to get out of bed and no certain time to do anything else. I cannot wait for some true relaxation.

 

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Coming up on my 3rd holiday in retail

I’ve worked many other retailers but this is my third holiday season at this particular retailer. I was a cashier 2 years- now I’m working in seasonal and garden center- so I’m now working in the center.

Our holiday decorations aren’t out yet, but they will be coming in soon and yesterday gave me a short sample of how busy we will be.

My hours are cut next week but I’m thankful for the break right now- I’m seeing lower hours as the “calm before the storm”

I can’t wait, though- I love fast paced and busy.