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The number one piece of advice I would give anyone who hasn’t had kids yet

Men and women are pressured, maybe equally, maybe women a little more to have kids. Once college is over and a career is started, a common question seems to become “when are you getting married?” Soon after marriage, the question that seems to come is “when are you having kids?”

It’s a concern a lot of women seem to battle with, for no real reason. Now, we have the ability to choose- whether using birth control, morning after, adoption and even abortion- women have choices about when or if they become moms.

It’s not a choice to make lightly. Many people do not want to be a parent, others give in to pressure and later regret. In reality, becoming a parent is a lifelong responsibility. It extends beyond the time they leave. You will always worry, want to see them as often as possible and want to spend time with grand kids.

The early years involve a lot of late nights, potty training isn’t smooth, you will grow comfortable with every type of bodily fluid (although I still have to ask my husband to clean up if someone pukes most of the time- just the smell alone can make me join in). When I was pregnant, I had to have other people change poop diapers due to my extreme sensitive smell and how prone I was to queasiness. (once again, unless I wanted to puke)

You can deal with colic, temper tantrums over everything, there will be times they don’t want to eat anything and times they only eat one food for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks and you’ll deal with all types of bad but the good should outweigh the bad. You will feel a strong maternal bond, but not every woman feels it- even after kids. You will feel a strong love and bond and the good times will quickly outweigh the bad.

A lot of people try to justify the why behind why they want kids. To me, it sounds like they’re talking themselves into wanting instead of actually wanting to be a parent “just because.”

This is my opinion alone, I always wanted to be a mommy. I wanted to be a career mommy (career and kids) and I never had a reason. Over the years, I read a lot and all the reasons people gave for having kids sounded more like they were trying to convince people or themselves they wanted something they were unsure of.

After looking at the realities of having kids, the numbers of women living in regret, I never give advice without being asked but if I was asked, I would always tell someone if they have a reason or a list of reasons to hold off on having kids.

What are your thoughts?

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Fast, Easy DIY New Baby Halloween Costume Ideas- For When You Run Out Of Time

With Halloween coming up, trick or treat and parties are starting to show up on schedules.Trunk or treats are an up and coming popular idea that is also starting to happen in a lot of communities. With costume parties, trick or treat and other Halloween festivities come costumes. With new baby, you need something simple and easy to use- diapers don’t stop getting filled up just because baby’s in costume. There are some costumes that are so popular, they border on stereotypical and outdated. How many farm animals, domestic animals, pumpkins and similar costumes do we see every Trick or Treat? What are some good ideas when you’re trying to be original?

  1. Prisoner– with their date of birth listed as “break out” date. It’s an adorable costume and even though it’s not fully original (you can’t get full originality), it’s not overdone.animal-1296176_1280.png
  2. Bat– Bats are iconic symbols of Halloween, but you do not see very many babies dressed up. You see a lot of pumpkins and black cats, so why not bring out the bats? They are cute, fuzzy and not nearly as evil as they seem.
    This image of a bat shows what type of pattern you would need to cut- just use black felt and cut the wings, attach them to the back of a black shirt and pair with black pants and a black headband for the ears mythology-1099255_1280
  3. Gods/goddesses– witches are common sights during the Halloween season but why stop at the worshipers when you can dress baby up as the gods or goddesses the witch worships? Gods do not need to be limited to the ones in movies, look up some of the nocturnal gods and goddesses and you’ll find tons of inspiration.
    These images of goddesses show how simple making the long, flowy dress would be- baby will be confined more than likely so she shouldn’t hve to worry about tripping over the skirt. You can find instructions for no-sew goddess gown/robe as well- use a cord as a belt but make sure it can’t come too tight around baby’s waist or stomach. Make sure the material is long, loose and flowy. wizard-36676_1280.png
  4. Old man- especially if your baby is young and still has the wrinkled look- the bald head can work with the costume. The image listed above- old wizard. Glue a glass ball to the top of a stick for the wand. Get a brown jacket and put yellow trim (or use any color combination), a white wig and fake white beard- they should still have wigs available in a lot of stores. mr-potato-353270_640
  5. Mr/Mrs Potato head– I’ll be honest, my toddler is watching Toy Story right now, but that would be another good costume for a bald head. Put some fake glasses and a headband with fake ears and if baby keeps them on… Cover them in a brown outfit, brown hat (or a crocheted hat with a brown bottom and black top to look like the hat)

Those are just a few little last minute costumes most of us could easily DIY. Since Halloween is now literally around the corner, if you have an idea that fell Pinterest is filled with easy and quick DIY baby costumes.