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Why it’s sometimes difficult to study your own dreams

Often you’re too close to the subject to see it objectively. That’s where people like me come in. I have devoted my life to studying everything I can find about dreams. I have studied the psychological and symbolic nature behind what dreams are trying to tell you. I have been interpreting peoples’ dreams for years and kept a journal of my own since I was in middle school.

I’ll be creating a dream journal to help you focus on your own dreams.

Often, our dreams are our mind’s attempt to put pieces together and figure tough situations out. They can also serve as warnings when you’re heading in the wrong direction or about to do something destructive. At times they can be caused by fears and anxieties when an event is coming up (new trip, new job, new relationship or pregnancy being a few of the changes)

Most dreams should not be taken at face value (for example- dreaming you’re pregnant usually doesn’t mean you need to set up an appointment with your OB, being pregnant in a dream means you’re starting a new project or new chapter of your life. Dreaming of death doesn’t meant to get your living will straightened out, it typically just means there is a part of your life that’s coming to an end or a chapter closing with a new one opening soon.

Most of the time, when we dream, we’re too close to the subject of the dream and we can’t see things subjectively. We can’t figure out exactly what the dream is telling us unless it’s an outcome or message we want to hear. Keeping a journal with all the details (including colors, shapes, symbols, people, places, and everything else you can remember) then waiting a while and going back over the dream at a later date can help create enough distance to see the dream clearer. I’ll be posting tips and tricks, symbols and other dream related things on this blog.

I’d love to hear from you all- what types of questions do y’all have about dreams?

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Dream Meanings Part 3- Kissing and Sex

I have had people ask me questions about dreams that really bothered them in the past. In the dream, they were kissing a member of the same sex whom they admired and at times it had them questioning their sexuality.

Dreams about kissing (or sex) typically do not mean you’re actually attracted to the person you’re kissing in a sexual way. There are several ways they can be interpreted and those are primarily based on the person and their relationship to you.

KISSING

Kissing a member of the same sex whom you are close to in real life typically shows a part of them you are wanting to take on yourself. Either you admire an aspect of their personality or physical appearance and wish to take that trait on yourself. That trait is usually a major topic in the dream itself.

Kissing a member of the same sex whom you do not know in waking life typically is similar but it can also show a part of you that you are just now accepting. That trait or aspect to your being will be the main focus of your relationship to the woman/man in the dream.

Kissing a member of the opposite sex when you’re in a relationship (hetero standpoint)- This usually shows some trait in a person you wish your significant other would show. It could be as simple as you wanting him to shave a mustache or beard or wanting her to grow her hair longer, or it could be a personality trait. Once again, it’s based on what the main focus of the dream is- the first thing that attracts you to the person you’re kissing.

Kissing a member of the opposite sex when you’re single- this usually is showing you what you want in a partner.

 

SEX

Sex is usually considered a taboo topic in dreams. It can mean that you have gone too long and are needing the release, but sex in dreams usually means acceptance, passion, (even anger). It is a strong topic, strong feeling and usually is also signaling a release of some kind.

If you are having sex with a member of the same sex, it is showing you’re in full acceptance of your self- whatever trait shows strongest in the dream is the trait you hold that you are finally accepting. It’s very similar to kissing.

A popular subject is having sex with someone you absolutely dislike (or even hate) in waking life- in this case, it’s a release of anger towards the person and the passionate (negative) strong emotions you feel about the person. Sexual dreams are a release- they are releasing fear, anxiety, anger, hostility or other negatives- this is not saying you’re going to wake up and feel great about the person, just that you’re one step closer to healing.

Dreaming about having sex with an ex is another common dream that makes people second guess feelings for the person. In some cases, it can be memories or it could mean you’re still heavily attracted to the person but most of the time it’s releasing negative emotions surrounding the break up and releasing the attachment you have towards the person. It can show

*Even though this is written from a hetero perspective, it can also be true if you’re lesbian or gay- the same sex meanings will hold true since most of the time it’s like looking into the mirror of your true self*