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Common Dream Theme- Running from Someone

If you are running from someone you do not know in a dream, that typically means there is a repressed aspect of yourself that you’re afraid of facing.

Running through a maze indicates confusion and being lost.

If you’re running away from someone (as I was last night- who kept trying to shoot me) and getting lost in a maze, it typically is trying to show you that there is some hidden aspect in yourself you’re trying to repress out of fear or anxiety. It is also important to take other emotions and other parts of the dream into context. In my case, they kept shooting and missing, there was a large group of other people (both men and women, all strangers) who were telling them they were overreacting, saying I wasn’t the bad person they thought I was and who were standing up for me) but the guy chose to keep shooting. In the end, he did hit me- in the arm and it barely left a scratch. (two small holes, my cat iwl has left worse marks on me)

What the dream seemed to be telling me was that I’m running from some aspect of my personality or self and that I feel a lot of fear and anxiety but it’s all too much of a reaction and if I accept it, it’ll prove to not hurt or leave as much of a mark as I am worried it would. Running through the maze shows confusion (I kept getting lost, stuck and held back from running). It had me literally running in circles and unable to escape the shooter who was right behind me. There were two colors that really stood out- red and yellow.

Red usually shows fear, anger, passionate anger (rage) and yellow can symbolize fear, betrayal, disease.

In retrospect, the dream I mentioned (I had it last night- it ended up lucid with me realizing half way through that I was dreaming that dream a second time) could be a warning about someone who I made mad who is trying to hurt me (betrayal) but other people aren’t buying it (all the strangers trying to talk the person out of shooting me)

When you’re analyzing a dream, it’s best to look at all possible meanings of the symbols, look at the major symbols, and either meditate (or pray) to try to gain clarity. I’ll personally turn to the tarot or even my crystal to gain better understanding.

If you have any dream themes you have that you’d like more insight, message me and I’ll create the same type of dream analysis (or blog post if I feel the theme could help others- I’ll leave personal details out and keep all themes anonymous)

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Dream Meaning 1- Conflicts in Dreams

There are many different types of conflicts-

1. Screaming and yelling matches (when you hear screaming in a dream, pay attention to the message that’s being yelled- it’s usually your intuition trying to get a message across)

2. Violent fights without weapons

3. Violent fights with weapons (I’m dealing with guns and knives specifically in this post but will mention aside that if you smack someone in the head with a blunt weapon, it’s usually that you feel you’re trying to “knock some sense into someone” in your waking life- if you get hit, good chance someone in your life is trying to get you to see something that you’re refusing to see)

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4. group fights, gang fights or one on one fights

There are limited people you can be fighting against, your lover, friends/family/people you know, strangers and shadows.

All conflicts in dreams show conflict going on in your waking life. It can show you have repressed anger, aggression, rage or resentment

It can help you see if you have healthy or unhealthy coping methods to dealing with conflict

It can bring hidden relationship issues to light that you know about but are consciously ignoring

They can also help you figure out how to end an on going battle you’re having with someone.

1 on 1 conflicts

If you’re having a fight with someone you’re close to in real life, it can be due to the anxiety you’re feeling over the relationship. Pay close attention to the reason you’re fighting- that typically will show what your insecurity is.

If you’re fighting with your spouse or significant other dealing with another man or woman, chances are it’s an insecurity based dream dealing with feeling like you’re not attractive enough or you’re not good enough in other areas. It could also be showing that you have insecurities over his/her relationship with that person.

Dreams about subjects you have normal fights over are usually your mind trying to find a way to end the cycle and bring the conflict to a close, especially if it’s a recurring fight or is always brought back up when you argue over other stuff.

If your partner stabs you, it means they did something in your waking life that feels like you’ve been betrayed and if you stab them, it is from a guilty conscious and you betrayed them in some way.

Shooting them, on the other hand, could be repressed resentment or anger towards something they said or did or it could be sexual frustration if it’s been a while since you guys have had any time together.

If you see blood, chances are through the anger and fighting (in your waking life) the relationship is or can be healthy and it has potential to survive. Blood is life- without it, no one can survive. If you shoot or stab and don’t see blood, that usually means the relationship is either dead or close to dying.

If you’re fighting with a stranger one on one who is the same gender as you, there is an internal conflict going on. Pay attention to the things that stand out about the person you’re fighting against.

If certain personality traits come out, those traits are either repressed in you and wanting to be let out or they’re traits you’re wanting to take on yourself. They could also be insecurities you’re wanting to kill off (in the case of shooting another more attractive woman- it could be that you’re dealing with insecurities based on your weight or your looks, if the woman you killed has a strong temper, you could be dealing with repressed anger or even rage issues)

If you’re fighting with a member of the opposite sex, they could be showing traits you have that are considered more “masculine” or “feminine” that you’re trying to hide or get rid of due to sociatial pressures. It could show traits you’re embarassed to have or are embracing. When dealing with these dreams, pay attention to the details.

Gang fights tend to mean you’re feeling like a group of people are ganging up on you or you’re feeling overpowered in an area in your personal life.

If you’re shooting a stranger that looks like you, it means you’re trying to kill off an aspect of your personality or trying to bring an issue from the past to a close.

If you’re fighting a shadow person, it shows fear and anxiety over an unknown area. If you over power them, it shows you are trying to get past the fear and are close to succeeding but if they over power you, it shows the fear winning out.

What are your thoughts about the topic? Do you have a dream topic you’d like to see covered? Please let me know in the comments.

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How I have been learning to lucid dream and control my dreams to help in my waking life

There is no way to fully control the content of your dreams but there are a few tips to manipulate dreams to come that you’ll remember.

If, let’s say, you are trying to make a decision to stick it out or leave a job or relationship but you’re stuck, the best way to fix it is to let your subconscious help you through it.

When you’re getting ready to go to sleep try to meditate and focus on the question you’re wanting answered. Sit or lie in bed for about 5 minutes and just picture your job or your significant other and try to imagine life without them/it. After you have it ingrained in your brain, go to sleep.

It usually is enough to trigger your subconscious into playing it out. Keep a pen and paper or journal by your bed.

As soon as you wake up- either in the middle of the night or the next morning, before doing anything else, write down every detail you remember from the dream. Let the notebook sit for a bit without reading it and come back a bit later (I’d suggest at least half through the day or wait a day or two.)

Try to think as objectively as you can (or have someone else read it as well) and keep in mind that major themes are usually symbolic and not to be taken at face value (sex doesn’t mean horny or attracted normally, death doesn’t mean you’re going to die and usually pregnancy doesn’t mean you’re pregnant)

Those are the (simple) tips that have helped me solve some major life decisions through manipulating my dreams (it also helps when it triggers lucid dreaming, where you consciously control what you do)

I’ll have another blog about lucid dreaming, though.

If anyone has ever found ways to manipulate their dreams, feel free to leave a comment and let me know worked for them.

If anyone has any questions, go ahead and ask in the comments as well.

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Why it’s sometimes difficult to study your own dreams

Often you’re too close to the subject to see it objectively. That’s where people like me come in. I have devoted my life to studying everything I can find about dreams. I have studied the psychological and symbolic nature behind what dreams are trying to tell you. I have been interpreting peoples’ dreams for years and kept a journal of my own since I was in middle school.

I’ll be creating a dream journal to help you focus on your own dreams.

Often, our dreams are our mind’s attempt to put pieces together and figure tough situations out. They can also serve as warnings when you’re heading in the wrong direction or about to do something destructive. At times they can be caused by fears and anxieties when an event is coming up (new trip, new job, new relationship or pregnancy being a few of the changes)

Most dreams should not be taken at face value (for example- dreaming you’re pregnant usually doesn’t mean you need to set up an appointment with your OB, being pregnant in a dream means you’re starting a new project or new chapter of your life. Dreaming of death doesn’t meant to get your living will straightened out, it typically just means there is a part of your life that’s coming to an end or a chapter closing with a new one opening soon.

Most of the time, when we dream, we’re too close to the subject of the dream and we can’t see things subjectively. We can’t figure out exactly what the dream is telling us unless it’s an outcome or message we want to hear. Keeping a journal with all the details (including colors, shapes, symbols, people, places, and everything else you can remember) then waiting a while and going back over the dream at a later date can help create enough distance to see the dream clearer. I’ll be posting tips and tricks, symbols and other dream related things on this blog.

I’d love to hear from you all- what types of questions do y’all have about dreams?

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When I lost you

When I lost you, not only did I lose getting to know a person. I also lost hopes and dreams for the future. I lost everything I drempt you would be and every potential achievement you could have made. I lost a tiny hand in my hand and a chance to be your mommy.

I lost seeing you smile, hearing you talk, hearing you laugh and picking you up when you fell.

I always wonder if you would be more like your daddy or me. Would you look like a mix of both of us or favor one more?

Would you be an artist, athlete or studious? Would you prefer cats or dogs?

Would you be girly like your sisters or the tomboy of the group? What would your favorite flower be? Favorite color?

What would your personality be like? Would you love or hate school?

When I lost you I have so many questions I will never know the answer to and I will never get to experience.

When you died, so did those hopes and dreams for the future. Your future. My future as your mommy and our future as a family

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Dream Journal Template I Created

This is a digital download I created to serve as a template to record your own dreams and help with analyzing.

Download one time and you can print as many pages as you need to create your own journal. The template is for one dream, no need to repurchase for each additional dream. It’s meant for personal/private use only. If you want it for commercial use, please contact me and we can work it out.

https://www.etsy.com/NewAgeDreamChick/listing/498483970/dream-interpretation-detailed-dream-pdf?utm_source=Copy&utm_medium=ListingManager&utm_campaign=Share&utm_term=so.lmsm&share_time=1523678550430

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Meaning of Dreams- Part 1

Since I have been studying dreams, dreaming and dream interpretation for over 20 years I have a broad knowledge. I am working on coming up with a dream interpretation workbook and dream analysis journal. I also interpret dreams on Etsy and I’m hoping in the next year or two I’ll be ready to move to a private website (dream interpretation and tarot)

One thing I stress to people when I’m talking to them about dreams is that all symbols may mean different thigns to different people. Three may represent a family unit or a “love triangle” but it could also have a deeply personal meaning- depending on the the dreamer. The entire dream needs to be looked at and analyzed in order to gain a full understanding of the meaning but one thing is certain- if you remember a dream, it has some kind of meaning. There is no real supernatural aspect- dreams are normally our subconscious working on trying to figure something out, work through a problem or even letting us know there is something very wrong (either with a situation or health).

Lucid dreaming is a strange dreaming method that can help when you learn how to do it.

Once you master lucid dreaming, you can test out different scenarios to see different possible outcomes. Lucid dreaming is where your conscious wakes up in the middle of the dream- you’re aware you’re dreaming and have actual control over what you do but you’re still asleep. It has taken me years, but I have learned- I can’t always but there have been a few times I have been able to figure things out by lucid dreaming and it has helped me get through tough decisions.

There are tons of resources out there- all giving similar but different interpretations- there seem to be as many interpretations as there are interpreters- but no one person is 100% correct. Those of us whom have studied for years are able to guide you through the interpretation and we can help you see the truth in the dream, but the best person to interpret your dream is you. Over time, I have developed a template dream analysis- the same I use to interpret other peoples’ dreams. I am currently working on a dream dictionary I hope to publish and a dream journal to help people discover how they can read into their dreams.

However, when you do work on interpreting dreams, sometimes the subject can be too close. That’s why there are guides, interpreters and the resources to help. If something is too close to you, you will not be able to see clear. Your own hopes, doubts and fears can get in the way of the meaning. That’s why everyone who tries to figure out the meanings to their dreams ends up having to find some resource- if it’s a book, blog, interpreter or anything else.

In this series, I’ll be talking about the uses dreams have, different subjects (by category), popular dream themes and any other subjects that come across my mind.

I’ll also answer any questions anyone has about dreaming. I have been studying for 22 years now, interpret on Etsy for profit and have been interpreting my own (and friends’) dreams for decades.

 

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How do you find your true passion?

From the time I was 7 until I was 18, I wanted to be a professional vocalist. I didn’t even care about the genre- I wanted to sing. I have been classicly trained. I have also taken dance and I’m trained in acting. After I hit 18 (and started smoking), I realized I just wasn’t being realistic. I knew back then I needed to get an education in something practical, but what seems practical also seems like something that would burn me out quickly.

When I was a young child I was told I started singing before I even spoke. My whole world revolved around music and basketball. I always had my Walkman in, was in chorus in elementary school and even took vocal classes. I also tried “strings” (violin) but was told I had musical dyslexia (I read the music backwards). I also didn’t get along with my instructor very well. I tried out for all school plays and won one of the lead roles in fourth grade. Unfortunately, I had to share the role with another student and she got the solo I wanted, but I got a duet so I did get to sing. I did all talent shows I had a chance to do and was always singing for family and classmates. I also played the drums in the school band in sixth grade but gave that up as well. I still loved doing it, just wasn’t a fan of the other people in the group. My senior year of high school, I went on stage at the talent show and forgot the words. I literally walked off stage (they thought I was doing a comedy thing and had no idea it was actually the most humiliating moment of my life). After that, I started having problems performing. I would blank when I saw the crowd and quit even singing around other people. At the end of my senior year, my classmates voted me “best entertainer” and “most likely to be a teen idol.” I was also pretty well known, even though I didn’t have many friends.

For a good part of my life, I also wanted to work in the fashion industry. I wanted to model but stopped growing and was only 5’5” but was also too fat to be able to get into it. I read a lot of fashion magazines and dreamt about writing for them- I thought being a writer for Vogue would be a dream. I was interested in design but my cousin went into interior design and couldn’t find a job. I thought fashion design seemed like fun as well but can’t draw. I always had in the back of my mind how much I love writing and was constantly praised on it. In high school, I wrote for the paper and everyone who knew me would search out my articles. More than a few said they expected to see my name as one of the writers in the paper. I also wrote for the literary magazine in high school and the newspaper in college. I loved being involved in those publications but I knew, realistically, someone like me would be a longshot and likely fail so I gave those dreams up before I let them play out in my head. One of my favorite pass times as a child (and teen/adult) was walking around on Sundays and walking in open houses. I collected house papers and wanted to work as a real estate agent.

I was given a Little Tykes basketball hoop when I was three years old. It moved up to a normal hoop in our driveway as I got older. I played daily at home and would play at church with the middle, high school and college age guys. I hated if they gave me an easy time because I was a younger female. Luckily for me, most didn’t. I got to the point I would shoot one hundred shots a day- and I’d count the number I made so I could figure my accuracy (I got up to a 95-99% accuracy by high school) but I never played at school. I did play for the YMCA for several seasons, I also played soccer, baseball, tee-ball and I dd try out for the tennis team in middle school. I had exercise induced asthma that wasn’t caught, so my teachers always thought I was lazy when I’d quit running laps. For years, I wanted to be the “first woman in the NBA.” When I learned about the WNBA, I watched a bit but slowly lost interest. I never liked playing with other women, it didn’t challenge me as well as I wanted it to and I was afraid of hurting someone. By middle school, when I started meeting women I wasn’t afraid of hurting, I had lost interest in playing on a school team even though a lot of the other parents at my mom and dad’s church thought I’d be capable of getting a scholarship to college.

In high school, I took theater and was in the theater program the whole time they had it (unfortunately, it was during my senior year when they started). Once again, I absolutely loved going to the rehearsals, practicing and then performing. I didn’t have a lead role but I really acted out the scenes I did have. Back in high school, I did everything I could to make people laugh- even if it was at me and not with me.

When I was in high school, we had to choose majors. I chose business, although I wanted to choose writing. While I was studying the business classes, I loved the idea of working for yourself. I even enjoyed my accounting courses. I got the chance to go to a free enterprise camp where they chose the “most promising” male and female business students. I got a full scholarship to the camp and the teachers pooled together and gave me spending money for the canteen. I fell in love with the camp. At the camp, we were put in small groups and ran through the stages of starting up businesses. I always chose to create the advertisements since at the time I was interested in the marketing aspect of business. I went to college the year I graduated and started my major in communications with an interest in broadcast journalism. The main communications 101 class I took was deliberately held at 8am. It was the only option and we had to have the class to progress in the major. I ended up kicked out for literally leaning my head against the wall (I didn’t fall asleep but was accused of sleeping) so I had to choose a different major. I chose marketing. I ended up dropping after the second semester. I was able to get back in (was booted for a year on academic suspension) and they lifted financial aid suspension. I had everything set up two times to go back. One year I even had my schedule selected but both times financial aid fell through. Both times, I was torn between what I wanted to major in (writing) and what was realistic (something that would guarantee me a job at a hopefully livable income). I was constantly torn. I would decide to go back, then the next week I would already have a different major in my mind. Needless to say, it’s been ten years and I still haven’t gone back. I’m actually no closer to making my mind up since.

As a way to gain access to the fashion industry, I did go back to school (beauty school) and studied skin care/cosmetics. I wanted to vecome a make up artist and hopefully get a job behind the scenes one day (in the distant future) during one of the shows during fashion week. Fashion week is a dream for me. Either LA or NYC, I would love to get the opportunity to attend. My dream of being a model ended over a decade ago, close to two, but the dreams I had of either writing for a fashion magazine or working as a designer or artist never fully burned out. I know I’d be miserable as a model, but behind the scenes is a different story. The Devil Wears Prada is still one of my favorite movies and I would love to get my hands on a copy of the season of Running in Heels that made me a huge Marie Claire Magazine fan. Now, I’ve moved on to reading HGTV, parenting and BHG magazine (and similar). I’m more interested in reading lifestyle parenting blogs than I am fashion blogs and I still have several magazine subscriptions.

I’m hoping in the near future, I’ll be able to see one of my long time dreams come true. I have a finished rough draft of a fantasy novel. It’s 100 pages and I call it my baby. Thanks to procrastination, I have 3 or 4 short story drafts I’m currently working on. One is 11 pages, will be part of a seven part short story fantasy series, I have 2 rough drafts started for 2 other fantasy novels, 1 sci-fi graphic novel started (but I have no artistic abilities so I’m stuck) and there is a card game I designed to go with that. Confidence is a big issue for me. I am so close to finishing several works, but I’m terrified of failing. I have been doing things I know I’ll be rejected from as a way to get used to rejection (I submitted a tossed together article to a website.

I’ve had too many interests. I consider myself a jack of all trades (master of none). I will go through phases where I’m seriously interested in doing things, then I’d lose interest. Then, I would gain the interest again. I call myself a burn out since I’m always burning out. I’ve been working in retail for years, my current job, about 2. It’s my longest job by over a year now. I love my coworkers and I don’t mind what I do, the benefits are pretty good and it’s a reliable pay check but I always wanted to do something both professional and creative. I’m currently selling decorative pillows and I do online tarot reading and dream interpretation on the side.

My husband just graduated Friday. He started with an interest in computer repair, started a course then burned out. He later returned to a different school and just graduated the auto tech course. I envy him. He always had those two interests- cars and computers. He didn’t have a long list of things he loved then ruled out although he did start a four year, like I did, but he was studying radio broadcasting then lost interest.

I read a lot of blogs, articles and I keep reading to go into something you’re passionate about. How do you find something you’re truly passionate about? Something that won’t fade? I am 30 years old now and no closer to knowing what professional career I want than I was at 18. I have a bunch of things ruled out- but nothing to go on. I have to ask, how do you find that one thing you’re passionate about?

 

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I’m turning 30 in just under a month

I try to always set New Years Resolutions. I do it mostly for fun but this January is a milestone for me. I’ll be turning 30.

I know 30 doesn’t seem old to many people, but I thought I’d be further along than I am. I feel like I’m right back at 19. I’m working back in retail (not by choice- I went in to skin care but the highest paying job I found was retail)

All my early adulthood, I wanted to be married, 2 kids, own a home and have my dream career. I’ve been married 7 years, have the two kids (technically 3) but we rent and I work a job- not a career.

At 19, I dropped out of college, got into an abusive relationship and was stuck until I finally got away from him at 21 and ended up homeless. I bounced around from couch to couch and ended up on harder drugs. I finally woke up and cleaned up, moved back with my mom and dad and got a stable job.

At 22, I met my husband. We fell in love fast and were married in 3 months. Our oldest daughter came along a month after we eloped. (we celebrated our 7th anniversary last August, so I definitely do not regret marrying that fast nor that young- he was 10 days past 20 when we eloped and he also has no regrets). At 23, I lost the job I had and went to school- the plan was to take the six month course, graduate then the baby was due shortly after graduation, then I was going to take 6 weeks to recover and start searching for a job. Instead, she came half way through the course and I had to take maternity leave. I went back and graduated almost on time (stacked up hours before and after she was born- it was a 600 hour course) while she was still in the NICU. She had to transfer to a different NICU in a different state right after I graduated so I went on to live in the NICU room (and Ronald McDonald House) with her while my husband and parents visited occasionally but all three worked. During that time, I started loom knitting and making earrings to deal with boredom from being alone while she slept and with the hats, Bethcessories was born but not well thought out. It was just put on Etsy and forgotten. After she came home, we took her out grocery shopping one time, she got sick and ended up in the PICU and on the vent. It was that moment (along with some bad experiences with a few home care nurses) that made me realize I’d be unable to work and put her in daycare and at that time, we were unable to find jobs that would allow us to work around each other’s schedules.

During that time, I found I was unable to get into the local colleges but was able to get the financial aid restriction lifted at the college I left but I’ve had the major issue of- do I want to go into debt for a job that doesn’t pay well but I am passionate about or do I want something I don’t really like much but makes more money?

The logic vs emotion disagreement has had me torn apart and is why I’ve successfully been re accepted 4 times, had almost everything planned out perfectly but then one tiny thing always falls through.

The very last New Year’s Resolution I kept was back on January 2, 2010- I promised myself I’d stay away from all drugs and as of right now, I’m going on 8 years clean. It’s something I’d be proud of- if it was a challenge, but it was my way of dealing with the trauma of what happened to me in those two years and lasted such a short time, it was very much against everything I have ever stood for and due to my nature, I know I’ll never be tempted to go back. It feels like it threw off my life path and since then, I’ve lived in regret and even shame that it happened. I know it’s me holding myself back from my goals but it feels like that one year threw me off so bad.

 

Most of what I have wanted to do ended up being dead end or low paying.

My cousin got a Bachelors in what I was originally wanting to get into (interior design), spent a year out of college (my senior year of high school) and couldn’t find a single job- back when the economy was better so I changed my mind.

I started off in communications (journalism) then switched to marketing before I dropped out.

My first job was writing for the local newspaper in a teen section they had weekly. I loved going to the meetings, doing the interviews and writing the articles. I had a friend who did it professionally (a huge dream) but it was lower paying. I went to beauty school to get into make up artistry (it’s always been a dream to either write for a fashion magazine or work behind the scenes at a runway show, now I’m too old to get into that. I’d be in my mid 30s by the time I graduated and I’m sure most places want an early 20 something fresh out of school to intern and I only studied skin, most make up artists need to be able to do hair as well, I believe)

I’ve read so many blogs and articles on so many different websites that seem to reinforce the fact that women are pretty much useless both career or otherwise after they hit the mid 20s, that what you make in your 20s is the highest you’ll make and if you’re not lined up to move up in your career by the time you’re 30, you’re screwed so it does kind of give me the mind set of “why bother?” I wouldn’t say I wasted my 20s. I loved staying at home with my oldest, I wanted kids young and the biological clock is a real thing but now I’m out of that stage (I very happily signed to be sterilized after my third c section) and as my youngest gets older, I’m thinking more seriously about career (the plan- first kids and focus on education then focus on building career while kids are older and in school. I didn’t want to have to freeze a career for 6 weeks to go on maternity leave- it happened when I was in a salon and it killed the career I was starting to build but I also wasn’t a proper fit in that particular salon)

People always tell me to not plan so rigidly- that life always throws curves into plans, but trying to have a plan is one of the best ways my ADHD mind is able to focus.

I had another plan to have my main work ready to send to try to get traditionally published by the time I was 30. Thanks to my OCD perfectionist personality, I literally spent 4 years editing the same 3 pages and am no closer to finishing it than I was when I finished the rough draft (the story is fully written from front to back- but I want this one traditionally published so I want it perfect). Once again, I had friends who have been published telling me I needed to stop being so hard on my work, stop overthinking and to not have such high standards for myself. My new goal is to have it ready by 35. I actually have several others started (thanks to Nanowrimo- a fun challenge I do every November)

I’m not sure why I’m writing this, I have severe anxiety over turning 30 and I guess I need to just get it out.