NewAge Mommy, writer and medium
I’m holding a New Year’s sale with only 7 1/2 hours left to get 20 percent off all readings, including my very popular Astrological 2019 forecast or my Valentine’s Day romance tarot reading
Right now, I’m running one of two sales- 20 percent off all readings with no spend limit OR 20 percent off all orders of 50 or more.
The sale is only running for another 7 1/2 hours and I have the goal to hit 120 sales by the end of this year.
I was asked what I wanted.
All I could tell them was I wanted something I can play with, not a need and not clothing or something to use for my business. I want something just for me.
Now, I am at a total loss- no clue what I want.
My brain is going full speed but unless it’s like a book or something, I no longer can think of hobbies.
It’s kind of sad that at 31, I have no hobbies because I spend all my time working or writing and it’s making me realize how little I really have.
I work 24/7 unless I’m sleeping or running after my kids, I have lost damn near all my social skills and quit talking to my friends. My #1 identity is D####’s mommy” or “M#######’s mommy” and it feels like even with me taking time for myself and strongly believing in not losing yourself, I have lost myself.
Before kids, I was a gym rat. I had gym memberships and was actually taking a boxing class. Music was my life. I played basketball and walked all the time.
I’m still interested and keep promising myself I’ll start walking again but never get an opportunity.
Now that I’m out of the pregnancy and young baby stage, it is 100% time to get back to my center and find what works.
Its kind of funny when an innocent question like “what would you like for your birthday?” triggers such a mental storm, but it’s not a good thing when you’ve been lost for 8 years.
Only 5 days left in 2018.
That means I only have 23 days until I’m 31.
3 weeks left until I have to say I’m “in my 30s” which was always a fear- no longer being in my 20s sounded like I’m officially a grown up- ignore the fact I’ve been married 8 years now and have one child close to 8 years old. I feel like leaving my 20s means I’m officially an adult.
I also only do new years resolutions I plan on keeping. My most memorable was made January 2, 2010- that I would get clean and sober and remain.
I did get back into drinking several times that year, but it was also the year I met my husband who didnt drink and being with him helped me to the point I quit over the years, now I react the same as an allergy and after I quit daily heavy drinking, I couldn’t handle even a sip without my whole body tensing up and being in bad pain in all my joints. Last summer, I had my very last drink- it took me a good 30 minutes to start breathing normal again and felt like my stomach was so bloated it hurt to breathe and my throat tightened up. Now I have a total excuse to reject drinks- to others and myself.
I have decided on a few changes I’m wanting to make over the course of the year.
Nothing sudden on January 1, but slow changes over time. Nothing as cliche as “lose weight” but I would like to drop from a 14 to an 8 over the next year and drop down about 20-30lbs to my first goal of 140-150.
Instead of saying “lose weight” my goals are to find and stick with a good workout routine, go back to meditating daily, drink more water, give up pop and everything I cant tolerate (starting with 1-2 months on Whole30)
Instead of saying “quit smoking” I’m going to say “find the method that works best so I can quit.”
I do need to keep in mind that since I’m getting older, my health does need to be my focus. I do need to stop eating what I eat, eat healthier and start taking better care of myself overall. Not just for myself but as an influence to my kids and to keep the Osteo from progressing. I have other goals, but they are long term and personal. These are the ones I’m sharing.
Do any of yall do resolutions? Instead of starting suddenly on January 1, anyone take them slower and try to maintain? I’d love to hear your thoughts about resolutions.
I’m thinking about New Years already. I’m not one to really make resolutions, but I do start things on the first of the month to easily track things.
Years ago, I did a tarot reading for myself for my year and the reading told me what month I was going to meet my husband, the month we got married and when my daughter was conceived. Since then, I do a yearly reading for myself and now I offer it in person or online.
I also offer it here.
I have some plans for the website, an ebook I’m hoping to publish and some major plans for Bethcessories. (originally here)
This week, I’m barely able to think- my work has me out daily until Christmas Eve, so I got the Christmas cookies baked today and I’m going to go ahead and say
Merry Christmas!!
It’s going to be the next month in Astrology and Numerology along with divination topics every month.
I’ll start offering the sign ups in the next week or two.
Men and women are pressured, maybe equally, maybe women a little more to have kids. Once college is over and a career is started, a common question seems to become “when are you getting married?” Soon after marriage, the question that seems to come is “when are you having kids?”
It’s a concern a lot of women seem to battle with, for no real reason. Now, we have the ability to choose- whether using birth control, morning after, adoption and even abortion- women have choices about when or if they become moms.
It’s not a choice to make lightly. Many people do not want to be a parent, others give in to pressure and later regret. In reality, becoming a parent is a lifelong responsibility. It extends beyond the time they leave. You will always worry, want to see them as often as possible and want to spend time with grand kids.
The early years involve a lot of late nights, potty training isn’t smooth, you will grow comfortable with every type of bodily fluid (although I still have to ask my husband to clean up if someone pukes most of the time- just the smell alone can make me join in). When I was pregnant, I had to have other people change poop diapers due to my extreme sensitive smell and how prone I was to queasiness. (once again, unless I wanted to puke)
You can deal with colic, temper tantrums over everything, there will be times they don’t want to eat anything and times they only eat one food for breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks and you’ll deal with all types of bad but the good should outweigh the bad. You will feel a strong maternal bond, but not every woman feels it- even after kids. You will feel a strong love and bond and the good times will quickly outweigh the bad.
A lot of people try to justify the why behind why they want kids. To me, it sounds like they’re talking themselves into wanting instead of actually wanting to be a parent “just because.”
This is my opinion alone, I always wanted to be a mommy. I wanted to be a career mommy (career and kids) and I never had a reason. Over the years, I read a lot and all the reasons people gave for having kids sounded more like they were trying to convince people or themselves they wanted something they were unsure of.
After looking at the realities of having kids, the numbers of women living in regret, I never give advice without being asked but if I was asked, I would always tell someone if they have a reason or a list of reasons to hold off on having kids.
What are your thoughts?
Each year, my Christmas tree gets less and less “decorated” by normal decorations.
My girls go out and make small ornaments or we make ornaments at home and I have been using less store bought ornaments.
I have a whole collection of old (antique) ornaments that I’m thinking about trying to sell (keep a very few but sell the rest) that I got from my grandma after she passed. She passed nearly 15 years ago and she had had the ornaments for a long time, most are actually older than I am.
We bought a pre-lit tree, and instead of having lights or beads around it- we have a paper chain my oldest daughter made a year or two ago
I bought a beautiful wreath off of Etsy that I was more than happy with. It was much nicer than i thought it was going to be (I bought it, so I already knew it was going to be good, I just was surprised by the material they used as the base)
Instead of using actual candy canes, I’m using the pipe cleaner candy canes I made and posted on my other site, and instead of using store bought ornaments, I’m using some my girls made with other people or that we made at home like my pipe cleaner Christmas trees. You can find both tutorials clicking on the links.
I have a few tutorials coming up with some other decorations I’m using. These crafts are kid tested and approved, if you’re interested in checking out the tutorials, click here and in the next few days they will be going up.
Is to set a certain schedule and post blogs on certain days.
This one is fine- some days I make 2 or 3 and other days, none.
My other site is based around kid crafts and allergy friendly recipes (focus on dairy and gluten free)
Right now, I have a bunch of Christmas crafts planned but after that, I’m wanting to start 2 days a week coming up with a craft and recipe. What would a good plan be that wouldn’t be too much like everyone else with a similar website?
I guess since it is December and my last post was about Christmas, I’ll be joining in the Blogmas trend.
I will probably not be posting about it daily, I already missed the first 4 days (never heard about it until Twitter, to be honest)
Today is day 7. I work my day job in product demonstrations. Yesterday I was sampling cocoa- it was a variety pack with 5 different, mostly seasonal and holiday flavors. I had to taste two flavors- white chocolate and mint.
They were the best tasting hot chocolate I have ever drank. I buy peppermint mocha coffee creamer every year and drink the Peppermint Mocha almond milk lattes. Last night I also made myself some peppermint hard candy.
To me, not too much else says “flavor of the holidays” than peppermint chocolate.
I was given 50 to spend on myself right after Thanksgiving.
I had just recieved a catalog from NY and Company, my absolutely favorite clothing company.
I hit their Cyber week sales- 70-80%off plus free shipping and got myself two new sweaters. Later, I returned and grabbed this jacket.
I’ve been wearing it near daily since. Its light enough to keep me from frying when it’s slightly warmer but warm enough for snow.
I also havent really got a new purse for a while and the price was too good to resist so I grabbed one
I also needed gloves and found these. The glove and scarf set ended my 50
The price was so good, I grabbed several sets to give as gifts.
All these were a grand total of under 120 and I got a bit of gift shopping finished as well.
The sweaters are perfect, the coat cost a total of 21- an 80+ value if I had paid full price. I really think NY and Co has some of the best prices
