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This month has definitely been crazy

I left my job of almost 3 years and went on to a lower hours/lower stress job.

I ended up starting the job earlier than I thought, and worked 7 days in a row, which wore me out that whole week (only 1 30 minute lunch break and standing in one spot on my feet for 8 hours a day, never knew that was so exhausting)

I am now to the slower schedule (1-2 days a week) and since I had the whole week without working, I looked at my NANO project. In the first 3 weeks of November, I managed to get a grand total of 10,500 words.

As of 1 PM today, November 30th, the final day of the challenge and after nights of going to bed around 1 am, I managed to squeak out 39k words, get 1 1/2 short stories finished and get a very large chunk of my main project.

I did the rebel thing, but one story pretty much ended the first day at less than 10k words, so I had to do something. Either way, between the two projects, it was my first time in 6 years that I won.

I’m making a personal challenge to myself to take all my unfinsihed rough drafts and finish them. Maybe not get them past the edit stage yet, but over the course of 2019, I’d like to see how many rough drafts I can complete. I have close to ten, if not more. I have 2 finished rough drafts and the rest are in varying stages. I just know I’ll never have the chance to publish if I don’t finish them.

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Common Dream Theme- Running from Someone

If you are running from someone you do not know in a dream, that typically means there is a repressed aspect of yourself that you’re afraid of facing.

Running through a maze indicates confusion and being lost.

If you’re running away from someone (as I was last night- who kept trying to shoot me) and getting lost in a maze, it typically is trying to show you that there is some hidden aspect in yourself you’re trying to repress out of fear or anxiety. It is also important to take other emotions and other parts of the dream into context. In my case, they kept shooting and missing, there was a large group of other people (both men and women, all strangers) who were telling them they were overreacting, saying I wasn’t the bad person they thought I was and who were standing up for me) but the guy chose to keep shooting. In the end, he did hit me- in the arm and it barely left a scratch. (two small holes, my cat iwl has left worse marks on me)

What the dream seemed to be telling me was that I’m running from some aspect of my personality or self and that I feel a lot of fear and anxiety but it’s all too much of a reaction and if I accept it, it’ll prove to not hurt or leave as much of a mark as I am worried it would. Running through the maze shows confusion (I kept getting lost, stuck and held back from running). It had me literally running in circles and unable to escape the shooter who was right behind me. There were two colors that really stood out- red and yellow.

Red usually shows fear, anger, passionate anger (rage) and yellow can symbolize fear, betrayal, disease.

In retrospect, the dream I mentioned (I had it last night- it ended up lucid with me realizing half way through that I was dreaming that dream a second time) could be a warning about someone who I made mad who is trying to hurt me (betrayal) but other people aren’t buying it (all the strangers trying to talk the person out of shooting me)

When you’re analyzing a dream, it’s best to look at all possible meanings of the symbols, look at the major symbols, and either meditate (or pray) to try to gain clarity. I’ll personally turn to the tarot or even my crystal to gain better understanding.

If you have any dream themes you have that you’d like more insight, message me and I’ll create the same type of dream analysis (or blog post if I feel the theme could help others- I’ll leave personal details out and keep all themes anonymous)

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I tried Hello Fresh

So, I heard quite a bit about the company and read several paid reviews. I also read it’s overrated but I got ahold of a 25.00 off 2 week so I decided to give it a try.

My first issue was that nothing specifically stated “gluten or dairy” either free or in the ingredients, so I had to guess.

My second issue was that I couldn’t find much without actually setting up an account and ended up paying before I saw much of what was offered.

I selected 2 meals a week for a family of four. It came out to 37 for the week with the coupon.

Aside from those issues, I selected the Spanish chicken.

The recipe was fast, easy to follow and came well packaged in a ice packed box.

It was a bit spicy for my kids, and I left several ingredients out. I also didnt use most of the garlic (my husband cant take garlic) but outside of that, I really liked it and my kids seemed to like it.

My husband hasnt ate it yet.

I’ll be fixing the cranberry pork chops tomorrow and I’ll see how they like them.

But for the price, it’s pretty good. For the non-sale price, I dont think 2 meals a week are worth it honestly.

*note- this is NOT paid, this is simply me trying and posting about the meal delivery company*

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How I get my kids to eat- a step by step guide

  1. I start early and fix a nice, balanced meal
  2. I sit the girls down at the table
  3. I clean up and scold the two year old for throwing the food when she decides it’s “icky”
  4. I fix a slightly less healthy meal
  5. I sit them back at the table
  6. I clean the next mess up as the two year old (who has ate a few bites from each meal) makes yet another mess
  7. I cave in and feed them what they want- despite it being what I deem as healthy
  8. I clean the last mess up and finally release them from the table
  9. I bang my head against the wall repeatedly while doing the fourth or fifth load of dishes of the day and silently scream because I don’t understand how I ended up with such picky and light eaters.
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I’m 2 months from turning 31

And while I don’t feel different, per se, I am looking at trying to look more “grown up.” I do not agree with the “how to dress in your 30s,” or “clothing to give up in your 30s” articles I have read, I am trying to lean more towards looking more put together and less sloppy. Most of what I wear are baggier shirts, mostly along the lines of shirts from events I have attended, charities, businesses or bands I listen to.

I don’t want to give up my band tees and I like advertising the charities and businesses but I feel sloppy. I do know there is truth to feeling better and more put together when you dress nicer.

30 wasn’t as bad as my mind made it feel but it did push me to reevaulate my life a bit, since I’m no longer college age.

It’s had me decide I’m wanting to start taking more small trips in state and out, write more and stop procrastinating since I missed my goal of having the one book I’m working on published by 30. I’m not sure what I was thinking, I remember turning 20 from 19- was no different, same with the “magical” age of 21.

I guess it just feels weird going from one bracket to the next- but feeling no different. I found some old pictures of what I looked like when my husband and I met and I look almost exctly the same- barely aged between now and 8-10 years ago.

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Dream Meaning 1- Conflicts in Dreams

There are many different types of conflicts-

1. Screaming and yelling matches (when you hear screaming in a dream, pay attention to the message that’s being yelled- it’s usually your intuition trying to get a message across)

2. Violent fights without weapons

3. Violent fights with weapons (I’m dealing with guns and knives specifically in this post but will mention aside that if you smack someone in the head with a blunt weapon, it’s usually that you feel you’re trying to “knock some sense into someone” in your waking life- if you get hit, good chance someone in your life is trying to get you to see something that you’re refusing to see)

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4. group fights, gang fights or one on one fights

There are limited people you can be fighting against, your lover, friends/family/people you know, strangers and shadows.

All conflicts in dreams show conflict going on in your waking life. It can show you have repressed anger, aggression, rage or resentment

It can help you see if you have healthy or unhealthy coping methods to dealing with conflict

It can bring hidden relationship issues to light that you know about but are consciously ignoring

They can also help you figure out how to end an on going battle you’re having with someone.

1 on 1 conflicts

If you’re having a fight with someone you’re close to in real life, it can be due to the anxiety you’re feeling over the relationship. Pay close attention to the reason you’re fighting- that typically will show what your insecurity is.

If you’re fighting with your spouse or significant other dealing with another man or woman, chances are it’s an insecurity based dream dealing with feeling like you’re not attractive enough or you’re not good enough in other areas. It could also be showing that you have insecurities over his/her relationship with that person.

Dreams about subjects you have normal fights over are usually your mind trying to find a way to end the cycle and bring the conflict to a close, especially if it’s a recurring fight or is always brought back up when you argue over other stuff.

If your partner stabs you, it means they did something in your waking life that feels like you’ve been betrayed and if you stab them, it is from a guilty conscious and you betrayed them in some way.

Shooting them, on the other hand, could be repressed resentment or anger towards something they said or did or it could be sexual frustration if it’s been a while since you guys have had any time together.

If you see blood, chances are through the anger and fighting (in your waking life) the relationship is or can be healthy and it has potential to survive. Blood is life- without it, no one can survive. If you shoot or stab and don’t see blood, that usually means the relationship is either dead or close to dying.

If you’re fighting with a stranger one on one who is the same gender as you, there is an internal conflict going on. Pay attention to the things that stand out about the person you’re fighting against.

If certain personality traits come out, those traits are either repressed in you and wanting to be let out or they’re traits you’re wanting to take on yourself. They could also be insecurities you’re wanting to kill off (in the case of shooting another more attractive woman- it could be that you’re dealing with insecurities based on your weight or your looks, if the woman you killed has a strong temper, you could be dealing with repressed anger or even rage issues)

If you’re fighting with a member of the opposite sex, they could be showing traits you have that are considered more “masculine” or “feminine” that you’re trying to hide or get rid of due to sociatial pressures. It could show traits you’re embarassed to have or are embracing. When dealing with these dreams, pay attention to the details.

Gang fights tend to mean you’re feeling like a group of people are ganging up on you or you’re feeling overpowered in an area in your personal life.

If you’re shooting a stranger that looks like you, it means you’re trying to kill off an aspect of your personality or trying to bring an issue from the past to a close.

If you’re fighting a shadow person, it shows fear and anxiety over an unknown area. If you over power them, it shows you are trying to get past the fear and are close to succeeding but if they over power you, it shows the fear winning out.

What are your thoughts about the topic? Do you have a dream topic you’d like to see covered? Please let me know in the comments.

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How I have been learning to lucid dream and control my dreams to help in my waking life

There is no way to fully control the content of your dreams but there are a few tips to manipulate dreams to come that you’ll remember.

If, let’s say, you are trying to make a decision to stick it out or leave a job or relationship but you’re stuck, the best way to fix it is to let your subconscious help you through it.

When you’re getting ready to go to sleep try to meditate and focus on the question you’re wanting answered. Sit or lie in bed for about 5 minutes and just picture your job or your significant other and try to imagine life without them/it. After you have it ingrained in your brain, go to sleep.

It usually is enough to trigger your subconscious into playing it out. Keep a pen and paper or journal by your bed.

As soon as you wake up- either in the middle of the night or the next morning, before doing anything else, write down every detail you remember from the dream. Let the notebook sit for a bit without reading it and come back a bit later (I’d suggest at least half through the day or wait a day or two.)

Try to think as objectively as you can (or have someone else read it as well) and keep in mind that major themes are usually symbolic and not to be taken at face value (sex doesn’t mean horny or attracted normally, death doesn’t mean you’re going to die and usually pregnancy doesn’t mean you’re pregnant)

Those are the (simple) tips that have helped me solve some major life decisions through manipulating my dreams (it also helps when it triggers lucid dreaming, where you consciously control what you do)

I’ll have another blog about lucid dreaming, though.

If anyone has ever found ways to manipulate their dreams, feel free to leave a comment and let me know worked for them.

If anyone has any questions, go ahead and ask in the comments as well.

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Why it’s sometimes difficult to study your own dreams

Often you’re too close to the subject to see it objectively. That’s where people like me come in. I have devoted my life to studying everything I can find about dreams. I have studied the psychological and symbolic nature behind what dreams are trying to tell you. I have been interpreting peoples’ dreams for years and kept a journal of my own since I was in middle school.

I’ll be creating a dream journal to help you focus on your own dreams.

Often, our dreams are our mind’s attempt to put pieces together and figure tough situations out. They can also serve as warnings when you’re heading in the wrong direction or about to do something destructive. At times they can be caused by fears and anxieties when an event is coming up (new trip, new job, new relationship or pregnancy being a few of the changes)

Most dreams should not be taken at face value (for example- dreaming you’re pregnant usually doesn’t mean you need to set up an appointment with your OB, being pregnant in a dream means you’re starting a new project or new chapter of your life. Dreaming of death doesn’t meant to get your living will straightened out, it typically just means there is a part of your life that’s coming to an end or a chapter closing with a new one opening soon.

Most of the time, when we dream, we’re too close to the subject of the dream and we can’t see things subjectively. We can’t figure out exactly what the dream is telling us unless it’s an outcome or message we want to hear. Keeping a journal with all the details (including colors, shapes, symbols, people, places, and everything else you can remember) then waiting a while and going back over the dream at a later date can help create enough distance to see the dream clearer. I’ll be posting tips and tricks, symbols and other dream related things on this blog.

I’d love to hear from you all- what types of questions do y’all have about dreams?

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HAPPY THANKSGIVING

Happy thanksgiving and tomorrow, happy Black Friday if you shop.

 

If you’re looking for Christmas decorations, check me out and use coupon code CYBERWEEK120 to save 10.00 off orders over 40.

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be adding to the store and finalizing it.

Right now, I’m offering 20% off all orders over 40 in both

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Hope you all have a great season.

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How to enjoy a Gluten Free Thanksgiving

Thanksgiving is celebrated by sitting around the family table with your extended family eating a huge, calorie laden dinner. It’s easy to eat until you’re bloated and too full/ tired to function but it’s a huge pain when you’re on a gluten free or any other restricted diet and need to avoid getting sick. You see the sweet potato pie, pumpkin pie and stuffing and already know you can’t eat those but what are your alternatives? Are there any other foods to watch out for?

Main Dish

The turkey (or ham) is the default with Thanksgiving. Make sure the seasoning is safe. If they use anything other than normal herbs and spices, it could have hidden gluten and not be safe. The gravy is another big no- unless you make it specifically yourself, you cannot be sure what it’s thickened with and it’s best to avoid.

The best ways to be safe are to make sure your turkey has no skin and no topping but spices. Keep away from gravy, or take some broth before it’s made into gravy and add your own ingredients to thicken it.

Sides

Stay away from stuffing, unless you get a gluten free bread or stuffing mix and make it your own. Stuffing is bread, so it’s obvious that it will not be safe traditionally.

Stick with normal veggies. You can ask about the ingredients in the sweet potato pie and there is a decent chance it’s safe, but is it worth the risk? To know you’re safe, stick with green beans, spinach or any other side that contains no additives. If that sweet potato pie only contains sweet potatoes, brown sugar, marshmallows and a few other items they can easily list (or show you) it’s safe. (Yes, sweet potato pie is my favorite dish)

Stuffing- gluten free version

Stuffing isn’t hard- take your favorite gluten free bread and tear it up, add it to broth (or gluten free gravy) and let it soak, then toss it with the celery, onions and anything else you use and wrap it in aluminum foil and bake it the way you normally bake your stuffing.

They also have gluten free stuffing mixes for people who don’t cook it totally from scratch- located in the gluten free section of the local grocer.

Hot Rolls

Rolls are another obvious issue- they are nothing but flour but there are gluten free options out there, more than other subs. You can find frozen gluten free rolls, normal rolls in the bread aisle and there are countless recipes out there for gluten free rolls, so you have many options. My personal favorite is to take a normal hot roll recipe and convert it- they taste almost the same and are a tried and true recipe.

Deserts

Pumpkin Pie

I think it’s safe to assume, the pumpkin pie is one of most peoples’ favorites. The pumpkin itself is fine- pumpkin, milk (or milk sub), cinnamon/ginger/nutmeg/whatever other spices you use, sugar, eggs- all of that is gluten free. You can bake it all in a pan to make a pumpkin pie pudding type of dish or you can head to the local Kroger (it’s the only store around here that sells them) and pick up an extra gluten free frozen pie shell. (Wholly Wholesome makes a really good crust- but pay attention to the label because some of their crusts are whole grain- meaning wheat and they are usually together in the frozen coolers).

Pecan Pie

There are plenty of recipes out there to make gluten free pecan pie and I’m not sure, besides the crust how much needs to be avoided.

Use your other Wholly Wholesome pie shell and find one of the many pecan pie recipes and test it out

 

It may be a bit more time consuming on your end and you may end up offending family members by your “diet choices” but it is very possible to be included in the big family Thanksgiving meal while staying safe and not getting sick.

If this is your first year, it will be more challenging but just remember- your body won’t care if your aunt was offended by you not wolfing down her rolls. Your body won’t care that you had a moment of weakness and took a few bites of that pie or stuffing- your body will mind that you just put an ingredient in it that it cannot tolerate and your comfort is more important than someone’s feelings. If it’s store bought, always look for the gluten free label and if you’re in doubt, keep away.